A Postscript to People...

[Venchka]

...grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

May ended badly. June is in freefall.

The alcoholic responsible for making me the sole support of 7 folks left his house last Saturday. Driving his wife's car without a drivers license, using his deceased father-in-law's credit cards and carrying a gun. The police ignored repeated calls from his wife telling them that her husband was an armed drunk operating an automobile without a license. The stolen credit card was finally cancelled yesterday. No cash. No credit cards. No booze. He shot himself this evening.

He's still alive. He botched that too. Still a burden to everyone he comes in contact with.

I need a stiff drink. If I weren't so totally opposed to alcohol right now.

It will all be ok. It will all be ok. It will all be ok.

Sorry for unloading like this. First Joe (CSOH) earlier and now me.

There is hope. I took out my plans for Spartan to take my mind off of things. smile.gif

Wayne
In the Swamp. :( :eek: :confused:

[ 06-09-2005, 09:51 AM: Message edited by: Venchka ]

[Art Read]

Good God! I hope, at least, he wasn't one of your own. Hard to hate and love a person at the same time. Take solace from the joy of enjoying those seven people who are now under MUCH better care...

[Jack Heinlen]

I'm always amazed by these stories. They happened, but weren't commonplace when I grew up.

I wager there are psychotropics here, prosac or paxil et al.

None of which changes your current situation Wayne. Take care. May you keep your wits about you!

[ 06-04-2005, 12:43 AM: Message edited by: Jack Heinlen ]

[Ross M]

http://www.thesca.org/PhotoGallery/the%20grand%20canyon.jpg

[Venchka]

Art,

Actually 6 + me. I am doing everything in my power to keep our little flock together.

Jack,

My wits are thinking sail over the horizon.

Ross,

Smiling. At first I thought you were showing me a cliff to jump off. smile.gif I love canyon pictures. I haven't gotten the the Grand Canyon yet but I will. Thanks!

Feels better already.

It's really strange. Last week my dentist told me about his first wife. Same story. When the money ran out and the booze ran out she committed suicide. Lest you all think I run in a strange crowd, I am very new to all of this. I have open bottles in my cabinet that I have owned longer the contents were aged when I bought them. I have had a bottle of 12 year old single malt for 17 years. Go figure. A drunk reaches out and turns my world inside out.

Stop it, Wayne.

Wayne
Keeping his wits about him In the Swamp. :D

[Venchka]

http://www.moab-utah.com/photo/deadhorsepoint/phd.jpg

That feels better.

Wayne
In the Swamp. :D

[PatCassidy]

Hang in there Wayne.

Henri Nouwen:
"When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives means the most us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving much advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a gentle and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares."

[bamamick]

Wayne, if you need to get away for a little while you can come over and use my schooner. If you'd like to get away in company (as in the six dependents), you can do that, too.

E-mail me at BLake84530@aol.com.

Mickey Lake

[Meerkat]

Vench will be OK - I told him where to find a cheap Swan! smile.gif

[John B]

Hell, Wayne. hang in there Pal. ever noticed how the strong ones get to carry the load.......

Its on the way up from now for you anyway.

[Venchka]

Thanks, everyone.

The terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day is over. I did contemplate packing a bag and running away to Oz or EnZed. God finished what was begun yesterday. Funeral plans in the making.

Today is a new day. It's gonna be a lovely day. I just got mass quantities of hugs from my grand daughters. It don't get any better than that.

Mickey, we'll talk when I get back home. Thanks!

John, this old horse is getting tired of load carrying. I want to be a burden to somebody. Not really. I did grin typing that.

Thanks one and all! smile.gif

Wayne
Away from the Swamp. :D

[Ross M]

;)

[Domesticated_Mr. Know It All]

Wayne.....I have raised 2 step sons for the last 8 years. It wasn't easy but was very rewarding in the long run. Hang in there and keep fighting the good fight. smile.gif
Peace---> Kevin in Ohio

[Hwyl]

Good luck Wayne.

My thoughts are with you. I have an empty house in Maine if you want to escape.

I think of you when I'm living my life of quiet desperation. You always seemed to have it together. Maybe the grass is not always greener.

[Steve Lansdowne]

You have nearly 10,000 wooden boat nuts willing to listen to and support you as you carry on. You're not alone.

[Venchka]

Me? Together? Maybe. Probably. I haven't broken anything. Haven't even raised my voice. Things started slip sliding away for my daughter, son-in-law and 3 kids back at Thanksgiving. We helped out. By January everything seemed ok. Things went to Hell in a hurry in April and May culminating in the ugliness Friday night. Right now I am supporting them. Son-in-law is in school and expects to graduate in either August or December. I can keep them going until then. They put a lot they own on the market. If they get most of the asking price they will have living money until he graduates. Heck, it's just my boatbuilding stash I'm spending on my grandkids. They need it now far more than I'll need it down the road. smile.gif

Hwyl, I always envied you. Funny how that works out, eh?

No worries. This too shall pass.

Wayne
In the Swamp. :D

[Venchka]

Originally posted by Hwyl:
Good luck Wayne.

My thoughts are with you. I have an empty house in Maine if you want to escape.

I think of you when I'm living my life of quiet desperation. You always seemed to have it together. Maybe the grass is not always greener.Boy, do I want to escape!

Have it together? That's just an act.

Wayne
In the Swamp.

[Ed Harrow]

Wayne, words fail me, but the example set by "Godzilla" and his Mom show that good people can, and do, excel in desperate situations.

[Joe ( Cold Spring on Hudson )]

Sorry Wayne :(

[Tar Devil]

There are no words for this, Wayne... except Peace to you, in some way.

Best Regards,

Phil

[paladin]

hang in there....I Truly know the feeling....

[Venchka]

Thanks again. Y'all are the best.

This isn't anything that time and money can't fix. I have lots of time! :D Heck, I don't have any business building a boat anyway.

Today is a great day. It's Emma Elisabeth's (half of Elisabeth Grace) 3rd birthday. One day at a time.

Wayne
In the Swamp. :D

[yorgie]

Wayne,I hope everything works out well for your family.If you venture out to the pacific north west bring your grandkids,we have a cabin on Hornby Island and my son and neice are their age.You're the guy that brought me on board the WBF(when you posted a shot of Munin with me at the helm) and I've always had a high regard for your cheerful and positive attitude.

Chris

[Venchka]

Shucks. You'll make me blush.

The PNW is tops on my list of places to take Elisabeth Grace and I sure would like to bring the wee girls that I named the boat for. Assuming that I'm not too old and ornery to mind two little girls for a few weeks.

Speaking of the PNW...time for a new installment.

Wayne
In the Swamp. :D

[MJC]

PNW! - forsooth - let's get you back to thinking about a Great Lakes Getaway!

http://www.gerhardt-realestate.com/c-662b.jpg

ignore the arrow. just think about sailing over the crystal clear water.

[ 06-06-2005, 02:55 PM: Message edited by: MJC ]

[Venchka]

Holy Smokes! A feller could get plumb lost in that maze of rocks.

"Why would that be a problem, Swamp Dweller?" :D

Wayne
In the Swamp. :D

[gert]

Good luck

[dmede]

I'm a little late on this but I wish you the best Wayne.

Sounds like the worst is now over.

This is too long for a C&P and it may be too long for a casual read but I thought of it just now anyway:

http://bobdylan.com/songs/guthrie.html

If you have the bootleg series you can listen to Bob read it. It always puts me in another place, calm and ok.

[Ken Hutchins]

Best of luck, things will get better. I'll also offer a get away place. I have a camp in northern NH, no phone service of any kind, no electricity, does have running water and inside plumbing. Real quiet solitude especially during mid week. A nice pond for canoeing, sailing or fishing.

[Wayne Jeffers]

Wayne,

Sorry to hear of your troubles.

But it sounds like you're handling things like a champ. If there's anything I can do to help, let me know.

In the meantime, give the grandkids an extra hug. And go sailing. It'll help put things in perspective.

Wayne

[Venchka]

Ken, Wayne North,

Thanks! If I weren't so boringly responsible, Elisabeth Grace and I could spend the summer travelling around meeting all of you and sailing. Alas, I am so boringly responsible that I must say, "Can I have a rain check?"

I am giving serious thought and planning to a multi-day "cruise" on Lake Texoma. Wayne North told me to do it! ;)

I started this thread to vent. Funny thing happened along the way. I cheered up. Thanks! Y'all are better than Maker's Mark. Wait. Did I say that? :eek: It's true. Y'all are better than drugs. smile.gif

Wayne
In the Swamp. :D

[Venchka]

Huh? Say what? Oh! :D

As I recall, you offered to baby sit Elisabeth Grace. What a pal! http://www.woodenboat-ubb.com/ubb/icons/icon14.gif

I'll let you sail her when I get to the coast.

Does anybody realize how long the list of fantastic places to take a tailerable boat is? (is that proper English?) Good grief. I better get busy.

I'm rambling. I must be better.

Wayne
In the Swamp. :D

[Venchka]

GEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEFLAMINHAWWWWWWWWWWWWW!

Or something to that effect. Where the heck is Shane?

Wayne
In the Swamp. :D

[Venchka]

Originally posted by MIke:
...Signing off from the land of those freight toting mosquitos. smile.gif

</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Oh man, thats a drag to have something like that so far away. It hard to believe that you could not find a storage facility around your area, even in a swamp. Heck, I gotta free place here, and it even comes with free maintainance.
</font>[/QUOTE]Shoot, we got 'skeeters like that and flying termites directing traffic for the 'skeeters. :D

I'm back! :D

Wayne
In the Swamp. :D

[Wayne Jeffers]

Originally posted by Venchka:
. . . I am giving serious thought and planning to a multi-day "cruise" on Lake Texoma. . . It's about time! The boat deserves to be sailed.

We expect a full report, preferably with lots of photos.

Wayne
In the Endless Mountains :D

[Venchka]

Best news I've had in weeks:

I'm outta here for 10 days, July 1-10. I think I'll take Elisabeth Grace on her first international voyage. Lake Texoma from Texas to Oklahoma and return. :D Full account to follow my return.

Anyone wishing to meet, sail, bend an elbow. Y'all come, ya hear?

Wayne
In the Swamp. :D

[ 06-07-2005, 01:33 PM: Message edited by: Venchka ]

[Alan D. Hyde]

Hang in there, OM.

We wish you well.

Alan & Joy

[Wayne Jeffers]

Say, that is good news! :D :D :D

Remember to take your sunscreen and lots of water. ;)

In the heat of Texas in summertime, best save the Abita for apres sailing. :cool:

Wayne

[Venchka]

Aye! Sailing in Texas in July might qualify me for therapy! The sailing will be perfect therapy. We'll leave the question of whether or not I need the other therapy until later. I wonder if the lake is in dry counties? No worries. Water will do fine.

Wayne
In the Swamp. :D

[Venchka]

Postscript:

Now that the dirty laundry has been washed and hung out to dry in the sunshine, the good folks in the community have rallied around my daughter and her family. There is light at the end of the tunnel.

To the good folks of Tupelo, Saltillo, Baldwin and beyond: Thank you!

To a certain head coach at a major university: Thank you! Your support in this darkest of hours is greatly appreciated.

Cheers!

Wayne
Humble and Thankful In the Swamp. :D

[ 06-09-2005, 09:51 AM: Message edited by: Venchka ]

[Venchka]

Closure. 'Nuff said.

Wayne
In the Swamp. :D

[Garrett Lowell]

All the best, Wayne. We all know you're up to whatever is thrown at you.